A CARE SERVICE — NOT A CLINICAL SERVICE
A Funeral & Bereavement Au Pair™ is not automatically a grief counselor, psychologist, therapist, social worker, medical provider, member of clergy, or bereavement clinician. HSBHAPG does not claim that an au pair diagnoses grief, treats trauma, provides psychotherapy, or replaces a licensed mental-health professional.
Their primary function is child care and child-centered continuity during bereavement circumstances. Where an individual au pair holds additional independently verified credentials, those qualifications are represented separately and accurately. Where a family or child needs licensed mental-health support, HSBHAPG encourages engaging the appropriate licensed professionals.
WHERE CARE MAY BE COORDINATED
Care Through the Moments Surrounding Loss
Depending upon the family’s needs and the approved service arrangement, care may be coordinated around the moments below. No service automatically includes every circumstance — each arrangement is assessed and confirmed individually.
Notification and family gathering periods
Funeral planning days
Private family gatherings
Viewings and visitations
Wakes
Memorial services
Celebrations of life
Funeral services
Burial or interment services
Repass and receptions
Religious and cultural observances
Travel associated with a funeral
Hotel or temporary-residence care
Private estate gatherings
Post-service family gatherings
Immediate bereavement transition periods
CARE SETTINGS
Where the Children Are, Care Follows
Every family decides differently. Care may accompany a child at the event, remain beside an infant through an adult-centered day, or wait quietly elsewhere — always within the arrangement approved by the family and HSBHAPG.
For the Smallest Family Members
Funerals and memorial events are frequently designed around adult schedules. Infants are not.
Babies may still require feeding, changing, soothing, sleep, movement away from noise, and continuous supervision — regardless of what portion of the service is occurring.
Where appropriate to the family’s service arrangement, the au pair can remain focused on the baby’s care while parents and family members participate in the event. The parent or guardian retains authority over the child, and care never suggests separation from parents against their wishes.
Event-Side Child Care
This addresses circumstances where the child attends the funeral, memorial, repass, or related gathering.
An au pair may remain near the child during the event, help maintain appropriate supervision, take the child to an approved quiet area, support feeding or rest schedules, help the child transition between approved spaces, remain attentive in crowded environments, and contact the parent or guardian when needed.
Situational awareness and authorized caregiving boundaries are emphasized throughout.
Private Child Care During the Service
Some families decide that a child should not attend all or part of a funeral-related event.
Where arranged by the family and HSBHAPG, an au pair may provide approved care in an appropriate private setting while the parent or guardian participates in the service — an approved private residence, estate, hotel, family residence, or designated child-care area.
Not every location or arrangement is automatically permitted; each is assessed and approved individually.
EVERY CHILD INCLUDED
Multiple Children, Disability Inclusion & Sensory Considerations
◈ WHEN THERE IS MORE THAN ONE CHILD
Bereavement care may involve siblings or several children within a family. HSBHAPG does not make a blanket promise that one au pair can safely care for an unlimited number of children.
The appropriate care configuration depends upon the number of children, ages, infants versus older children, behavioral or developmental needs, the event environment, length of care, overnight needs, mobility, and other relevant circumstances.
Where appropriate, HSBHAPG may determine that more than one caregiver is required.
◈ DISABILITY & BEHAVIORAL-HEALTH INCLUSION
This service is consistent with HSBHAPG’s inclusive care model. Families may discuss relevant care needs during intake so HSBHAPG can evaluate an appropriate care arrangement — including children with autism spectrum-related needs, behavioral support needs, sensory considerations, mobility or limb differences, developmental differences, medical-care considerations within the caregiver’s authorized scope, or other disabilities.
Not every au pair is qualified for every medical or behavioral circumstance. Qualifications are matched appropriately to each child and each arrangement.
◈ SENSORY CONSIDERATIONS
Funerals and memorial events can create unusual sensory environments for a child:
Crowds
Music
Crying
Physical affection from relatives
New clothing
Floral scents
Religious ceremonies
Long periods of sitting
Unfamiliar buildings
Changes in meal schedules
Travel
Interruptions to normal routines
Where a child has known sensory considerations, approved accommodations and care instructions are incorporated into the care plan before the engagement begins.
PRIVATE FAMILY STANDARDS
Private Family Moments Require Private Family Standards
Funeral and bereavement circumstances may involve extremely private family information. Au pairs are expected to follow applicable HSBHAPG confidentiality, privacy, documentation, photography, social-media, and information-handling standards.
◈ NO UNAUTHORIZED
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Photography or video
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Recording or livestreaming
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Posting or location sharing
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Discussion of the family
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Sharing of children’s information
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Disclosure of private family circumstances
HSBHAPG does not publicly disclose its confidential internal security procedures.
◈ SAFETY COMES FIRST
If an au pair observes an immediate safety concern, a medical emergency, significant child distress, a missing child, an unauthorized removal attempt, or another serious concern, the au pair is expected to follow applicable emergency procedures and HSBHAPG escalation requirements.
The child’s safety and welfare always take priority over the care engagement itself.
◈ PREPARING AROUND THE CHILD
Depending upon the service, HSBHAPG intake collects the information needed to plan care around each child — securely, and without duplicating records your family already holds with us:
Child age and number of children
Feeding considerations
Sleep schedule
Allergies
Relevant medications and authorized administration information where applicable
Mobility considerations
Behavioral and developmental considerations
Sensory considerations
Authorized adults
Emergency contacts
Event schedule
Transportation considerations
Care location
Family instructions
Current HSBHAPG families never need to recreate information already held securely within their account.
◈ SERVICE LENGTH
Funeral & Bereavement Au Pair™ support is not hard-coded as a funeral-day service. It may be structured as event-only care, multi-day care, travel-related care, or a broader transition period, according to the family’s approved care needs. All arrangements remain subject to HSBHAPG assessment, caregiver availability, scope, location, and the final service agreement.
MANDATORY PLACEMENT GATE · HSBHAPG IN-PERSON PRE-PLACEMENT PRACTICUM™
No Practicum.
Before an au pair is placed with a family, her caregiving is observed in person through the HSBHAPG In-Person Pre-Placement Practicum™ — under authorized supervision, and always with the child's safety and welfare taking priority. An au pair who has not passed the practicum is never placed with a family. No exceptions.
Practicum completion is a mandatory verified step toward placement — never, by itself, a guarantee of placement.
BEGIN A PRIVATE CARE INQUIRY
Request Family Support
Because bereavement circumstances involve children, location, timing, travel, care complexity, credentials, and the number of caregivers, every request is reviewed privately by HSBHAPG before any care arrangement is confirmed. This is a care inquiry — not a checkout.
◈ CURRENT HSBHAPG FAMILY
Your family’s information is already held securely within your account. Sign in to your Family Portal and mention this service to your placement team — there is no need to recreate anything below.
Family Portal Sign-In◈ NEW FAMILY · PRIVATE INQUIRY
New families may complete the confidential inquiry below. A member of our team will contact you privately to understand your family’s circumstances before anything is arranged.
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PRIVATE QUESTIONS, PLAIN ANSWERS